Enlightened Relationships
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Reading Eckhart Tolle’s take on enlightened relationships was absolutely fascinating to me. Sometimes I question whether my current relationship is simply wonderful or rather dull, but it has never occurred to me that enlightened might be a better word to describe it.
Love/Hate relationships. Romantic relationships are inherently dysfunctional or flawed unless you are in the “now”. They seem perfect while people are “in love” but then oscillates with the polarities of love and hate – giving as much pleasure as pain. The drama makes people feel alive, and couples feel addicted to the cycle… the cycle that inevitably continues until the destruction of the relationship. My current state holds little to no drama. I no longer feel involved with a seeming addiction to this cycle. I don’t have those ups of complete euphoria, neither though do I experience any misery either. I just am. We just are. Sometimes I even wonder if I’m “in love” according to the popular definition, but according to Mr. Tolle, “in love” is a fleeting state that either leads to actual love or disintegrates. I have never felt (with him) the addictive quality that Tolle describes; rather, there is a calm and dignified peace. Sometimes it’s tender, sometimes exciting, sometimes amusing… but in the end, always accepting. I don’t want to change him. I want him exactly as he is – even if he might frustrate me or not do something according to my wishes; these are, after all, the wishes of the ego. No. I don’t think I’m “in love”. I just love him. Simply. Easy. Fully. Completely. Is this my first enlightened relationship? I could say that time will tell, but to live in the now, I will simply say yes. I don’t think time will do any more than convince me further that I am correct. |